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This kid knows how to read and she writes her name. I think all i can do is as you suggest is say nothing (truly say nothing) but this is very very hard. I think the initial comment of this thread is about a 4.5 yr old who is dry during the day (since 2.5) but still wets the bed at night. Here is my answer: Body maturation and awareness comes in three stages: “I peed,” “I am peeing,” and “I have to pee.” When they share “I peed” and “I am peeing,” you can smile and say encouraging comments like, “Hey, you are really getting to know your body!”. We all have off days. My son will turn 3 in October we started potty training at the end of May as he seemed very willing to use the potty. (And even when we WERE doing the whole pump him full of liquids and then physically put his butt on the toilet every 30 minutes thing, he was still just as likely to have an accident exactly 30 seconds after he got off.) Turns out it was just the novelty of it for our kid, including at school. What this means is that each of my kids had one or more factors that impacted their ability to potty … I think it’s good that you are looking for help here, for the little guy’s sake. Thanks. Look for 2-3 hour periods of dryness and predictable bowel movements each day. Hi Rebecca. Hi, just reading this. Amy is mother to rising first-grader Noah, preschooler Ezra, and toddler Ike. This is still about “play,” not “trying” to use the toilet. And so, you know. Ideally, signs you want to see in potty training readiness: 1) Diapers staying dry for longer periods of time (including after naps), and a semi-regular poop schedule. But one anecdote does not a gospel make. You can follow Amy’s daily mothering adventures at Amalah. If you have started potty training and your child is having a ton of … Show them how to dress and undress so they can pull their pants down and up on their own. Part of why children don’t co-operate is because they feel they are being manipulated and controlled by their parents who want to “make them mind their will” and in essence force them to comply and use the potty. Potty training resistance is most commonly seen in shy kids who feel all this growing … I’m wondering what signs of potty readiness she was displaying that prompted you to start “officially” training? We then tried just sitting her on the potty, giving her liquids, offering rewards, etc, and it resulted in no progress. But when it comes to potty, she is very stubborn. In this case, however, choosing for him becomes a power struggle. Will any of those top results be helpful? Even if you’ve made the best plan, it’s possible your toddler refuses potty training — at least for a while. Had options “underwear or baby diapers today?” And just overall stopped pushing. If your child is hitting age 5 (but typically most kids are independently using the potty by age 4) and is still completely resisting going to the bathroom then you may be dealing with another issue. I personally consider any age closer to 24 months than 36 months as training on the early side! Although some kids are ready as young as 18 months, others may not be prepared to learn until well past their third birthday. No means NO and you have to respect that. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. With that, I have some more questions. Please advice me on what to do. He potty trained well for peeing last July but still wont poop in the toilet. If they don’t want to use a toilet, they may be ready … It’s an invitation to try – not a life sentence of sitting until something happens! Given that…he decides he does not want to. It sounds like, at a minimum, she’s missing sign #3, as she simply doesn’t care about being wet or dirty. This is another song that shows kids why they shouldn't wait too long to use the potty. I’d also take a good long look at what’s leading to her (relative?) Alas, it did not happen. There needs to be a gradual build-up/introduction and there DEFINITELY needs to be signs of interest and readiness from your child, as opposed to it being a decision you make 100% on their behalf. Before taking away the diapers and going cold turkey, you’ll want to figure out … Somewhere in the middle of their second year, you can buy a potty and get some fun children’s books about potty training. Last month, we started potty training our two year old (28 month old, to be exact) on a long weekend where we would be home the entire time. If they don’t want to use a toilet, they may be ready physically, but not psychologically. They are a cacophony of conflicting advice and not-so-subtle digs and brags and the occasional horror story. We have affiliate revenue relationships with Amazon, and with other retailers that are handled by third parties like Skimlinks, RewardStyle, Commission Junction and Linkshare. Unless I was willing to live our lives as permanent slaves to the 30-minute potty timer, there would be accidents all the live-long day. He will sit and practice on the toilet then get up and poop in his underwear. I’m on day two of potty training my 20 month old boy and we have only had a few successes. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. She hasn’t pooped on the potty once. Hope it worked out for you all in the end. But that was short-lived. There is a potty-training backlash movement. You can follow Amy’s daily mothering adventures at Ama... Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. If she doesn’t care about being wet at home, will she care more at say, the library? He leaves the room to poop, and asks me to change soiled diapers, but that’s about it. By that I mean he knows exactly what to do and how to do it. I have no idea if it is attention he is looking for, or rebellion. The pressure to potty train can be intense. "When kids want to go on the potty, they will go on the potty. For our … She has never told us she needs to go potty. If they have many accidents and never even make an attempt to hold or get to the toilet. I tried. Do we just let him stay in dirty diapers until he chooses an option? If they are holding or constipated, whatever you might be doing – back off! Take these 5 steps towards a better relationship with your child. There’s nothing worse for a toddler than giving up! Any answers to questions posed and any recommendations or information provided therein should not be used as a substitute for medical or relevant other advice by a health care provider or parenting professional. She is trilingual as well. If you are contemplating potty training and your child is not yet three, give yourself a break and wait it out. I don’t like this after all.” (And that might not happen right away! Your child’s day care or preschool has set a deadline. No judgement from me in that last paragraph, by the way. I did everything that worked for my firstborn, everything I’ve preached and rambled about here on This Very Website, and lo, it did not work. Notice I say “willing”. You want to keep up with others in playgroup. Any advice on what to do when the toddler says NO to both toilet training and diaper changes? She learns really fast. He was not ready. My daughter is not afraid of sitting on the potty and happily goes into the bathroom but she seems scared/uncertain about letting her pee come out. They claim if you follow the right strategies, you can potty train a child before they even turn two. Should I put a pause on potty training for a few months and wait for her to be more interested and initiate? (only with regards to potty-training of course) Since my boys … Did you read lots of books and gradually introduce the potty as a “someday” concept, or did you just up and decree it to be the New World Order one day? I am scared he will go to school not fully trained. Some kids really do take a very long time and you just have to power through a couple weeks of nonsense. HI there, 20 months is very young. Which I think she just means she doesn’t want to because you can ask her if she wants a cookie and she’ll say she doesn’t like cookies, then immediately ask for a cookie. But no luck. I need help in potty training my 3.5 year old daughter. If your child's nappy is dry or only slightly damp when your child wakes for a few mornings in a row, they may be ready for night-time potty training. 4) Hiding when peeing/pooping, or giving some physical or verbal indication that they’re going. No matter what, though, and above all things: She WILL potty train, when she’s ready. Would she respond similarly to say, a babysitter or grandparent stepping in and reinforcing her training for a day/evening? He also pees a lot! and let them “play”/”imitate” you by either sitting on their potty or the toilet (with their pants still on is typical), or putting their dolls on it. so “training” at home was not even really something we had to do. If we don’t choose for him, it becomes a power struggle that can last all day. A full month? When I take him he does go sometimes he needs some convincing to try the potty but other times he goes to the bathroom no problem. The potty training usually lasts a week or so. We have m&ms for when she pees on the potty, but that worked for maybe a week and now she doesn’t care about those. I am thinking to stop completely. She’s gone on her own maybe a handful of times without prompting, but that’s it. No means NO and you have to respect that. Decide on a method. Thank you for all the information you provide! At 2.5 he is barely old enough for daytime dryness. Alyson. The issue … I was irritated and exhausted and missed being able to go places and do things without being on constant High Bladder Alert. So – just stop training him and I’ll bet when he is closer to 4 (ave age range 2.5-3.5yo) he will decide he would like to use the toilet like the others in his home or daycare. Amy also documented her second pregnancy (with Ezra) in our wildly popular Weekly Pregnancy Calendar, Zero to Forty. He has to change himself after accidents? Some kids learn before 18 months, but many take a year to a few years more until they're ready. This, in my opinion, is when active potty training takes place (somewhere around between 2 1/2 and 3 years of age) and it means having you child wear fast-to-pull-down track pants or leggings – no zippers, belts, buckles or overalls, please. Not every kid needs to check off EVERY one of these signs 100%, but man, that one REALLY, REALLY helps. Ehhhh, that’s probably questionable. but my kid has a fall birthday and was going to be The Youngest Kid, so we knew we were pushing it before he was ready/interested). Hello! Kids also need to develop the muscles and sensations. We’ve been at this for a month and the lack of progress is starting to wear on this momma. Someone must be present at… Is he not ready? Think of the mixed messages you’ll send!”, “Just stop, she’s too young, what were you even thinking, if you just wait for her to show interest and she’ll basically just train herself!”, “You just have to be patient! Definitely not TOO young to train, but realistically, if she didn’t potty train for another six months she’d STILL land right in the middle of the “typical” range. My issue is that he starts school in a few weeks and I just don’t know what else to do now. And some children aren't interested in potty training … Also on day 3 if training, it doesn’t seem like there is any progress he is still having the same amount of accidents. No matter what your mother told you, there’s no one right age to start potty training. © 2016 Alpha Mom. I dont want to go back to diapers after a year of good peeing. It went on like this for maybe 4-5 months. If I were you, I would take a good long look in the rearview mirror and re-examine the signs of potty readiness that prompted you to train. I have dedicated whole weekend to my daugher, waiting for signs. Poop was a struggle at first but he then started using the toilet no problem. I absolutely am guilty of doing exactly that with one of my toddlers. Glad you came to the talk. Then he stopped asking to go and simultaneously started fighting diaper changes. When Will Your Child Be Ready for Potty Training? I thought he was ready, mostly based on his age, what other people’s kids were doing at the time, and a vague bit of hubris that he seemed advanced in a few other areas (verbal, mostly) so clearrrrrrrrly he was going to train as soon as realistically possible. Let them see you using the toilet (if you are like me, you have never had a minute alone in the washroom anyway!) The marketing has us all trained to think that all potty-training kids should wear pull-ups, when really, they serve a specific purpose for a specific segment of potty-training kids, and that’s it. I have gone cold turkey on her twice already, but no luck. However, rest assured that our affiliate relationships do not guide our product recommendations, at all. And it doesn’t faze her – she couldn’t care less about being wet. Daytime and nighttime potty training are different skills. I will use the potty instead.”) If she’s missing any of the other signs, then it’s possible that yes, she just wasn’t/isn’t ready. I am just listening to you speak at Amex!! I was directed here by a friend of mine. While your child may be fully trained in the daytime, it may take many more months or even years for them to stay dry at night. Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. This is the only site I’ve found that has realistic answers to potty training questions. The next time they announce, “I have to pee,” ask, “Do you wanna try the potty?” If they say yes, say “Let’s go,” and then move quickly to the potty and get them on there quickly. We kept everything “available” at home. For about 2 months, we would put him on the potty at his request, and he would go days without an accident. (Set potty break times, a different potty seat configuration, etc.?) Hi, I’ve followed your advice but my now 4 year old still refuses to wee on the potty / toilet. Shouldn’t he have this by now? We tried the 3 day bootcamp, and it resulted in accidents, tantrums, and constipation. It's one thing to master daytime potty training. (I don’t think my youngest child would have ever trained if wet clothing didn’t drive him up the wall. 3) Pulling/tugging at wet/dirty diapers or asking to be changed. Hi my sons 3 in 2 months and he starts school so could do with been out of nappies by then , my first son only took a matter of days to train but my youngest iv been at it a week first few days just constant accidents and no interest in potty at all now he tells me mummy weewee mayb 3 a day but has about 10 accidents inbetween poos are still in his pants aswell if I say do you need weewee he just says no and doesnt tell me when his pants are wet his speaking ok but not brilliant do I just go back to nappies for a dew week and try again later ? Begin “training” when your child is verbal. They rebel by their refusal to do so. He must want to have some interest. She know lots of books and songs by heart in three languages. He did not care at all. If you see a link to a retailer, please assume that it is an affiliate link. She’ll tell you that she gets stickers and a toy when she goes poop on the potty…she just won’t actually do it. We try to have her help clean up, but that usually just causes a tantrum, then she’ll help a little (like one wipe of a towel) and be done with it. Is it just night dryness that is the issue? Then she decided she wanted underwear all the time (except at night). This will relieve the pressure on a stubborn … These areas should be kid-friendly, with step stools and easy-to-reach soap and towels. You are phenomenal! Should i try using his potty again, we had trouble getting him to use any toilet buf his potty so leary on going back to it. Why is my potty trained child still wetting the bed at night? Do I need to stop? I do have to take her to potty ever 10 minutes. We were really excited when she came home from daycare the other day declaring she had pooped in the potty! He may be able – but he doesn’t want to co-operate. I agree – just stop all together. She’s in full-time daycare, and even they are stumped. I have a 2 1/2 year old that has been potty trained. And that was weeks ago. Thanks for the great advice. She’s had maybe two or three pee accidents there but usually does well. Sometimes it’s a struggle to get her to go too. Truth be told, learning when it's time to go is not easy. Is your toddler giving himself a little privacy while while he … She wants to do this thing for her self, her way, her time… trust her. If you could help that would be great just worried if I stop he wont train again if he thinks il give up. If you plug “when to give up p” into Google, “potty training” is one of the top suggestions (along with pacifier, pumping and one lone non-mom-worry of potential relationship). But here are always exceptions. They can try anytime they like. Steer clear of worrying about hard and fast deadlines. All Rights Reserved. One of them toilet trained months ago. When you and your child are ready to start potty training, make it a big occasion. (They’re great for a kid who consistently pees in the potty … My kid did great at school, just like yours. It’s entirely up to you to decide whether the constant pressure/vigilance now is serving even the tiniest sliver of purpose, and if you’ve seen ANY progress that isn’t worth giving up on. So you think you're ready to start potty training your toddler? If they don’t go when they are on the potty, but then go immediately after being re-dressed. By this time, she was really good at using the bathroom by herself (lots of practice at school!) Ask your child to use the potty last thing before they go to … If there is a question you would like answered on the Advice Smackdown, please submit it to [email protected]. https://www.mayoclinic.org/.../in-depth/potty-training/art-20045230 I also feel like he does that the “urge” to go. So should I stop and try again or keep going with it? SO. thanks tempa, Hey Tempa, Thanks for your note! This can be true, but as with everything parenting related, I think it really depends on the individual child. We just waited him out. She still uses the potty to pee, but only if we ask/bribe/beg. I apoalogized and told him he is in charge of his body, we went back to saying nothing and he is having pretty regular movements again but no interest except once for a treat to use the toilet. Lots of praise. Hello Alison, If your little one is still wetting the bed overnight even though she's been potty trained, she's in good company. This does not define my kids or me as a mom. You are the parent. A store? So what should I do? The following items will streamline the process and help you understand how to potty … But our potty training struggles do not define us as a family. We tried again a few months later, once he started following his brother into the bathroom out of curiosity. ABANDON ALL HOPE.”. I feel lke this is a new powerstruggle being in the bathroom. Once the pee started to come out she relaxed. They’re pretty proactive in helping with potty training. Start by helping them learn the language they’ll need, like “pee,” “poo,” “bum,” “potty,” “toilet,” etc. She says “no, I don’t like it”. Hi Alyson, Know that kids potty train at different rates and ages. Their ability many continue grow, but their interest will wax and wane. Like before July. She has been a panelist at BlogWest, Blissdom, #140NYC and more. He changed his mind when he was the only one… Read more », We had a horrible experience potty training our son- we started it at 31 months, so about 2.5, basically because I knew he was going to need to be potty trained for PreK that fall (universal pre-K in DC is great! First, potty training next day it is attention he is barely old enough daytime. 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